Be Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve
Avoid the booty call blues and get the love -- and sex -- you deserve! Come on. Admit it. He may not be that into you, but were you ever really that into him ? He was never "the one," but you lowered your standards and dated him in the meantime. Why? For any number of reasons: you were lonely, you were horny, you thought dating him was better than being alone, all your friends are getting married -- you name it. And before you knew it, you got hung up on the jerk. Go figure. The world is full of sensational women, but in today's market there are too few good men to go around (or so it appears). Now Dr. Ian Kerner , clinical sexologist and author of the smash hit She Comes First , explores the battlefield of sex, hook ups, go-nowhere relationships, and the dismal dating treadmill, simultaneously arming women with a sharper set of insights and the tools for change. With humor and sincerity, Kerner shows women how to break the cycle of dating defeat and use the power of sex to find love, "with a great guy who is into you." So raise your standards -- and reach for the love you deserve!
A Clinical Sexologist's Opinion of the Single Life
By Rebecca of Amazon "The Rebecca Review" - February 18, 2005
Ian Kerner takes a realistic and very serious look at what is actually occurring in the lives of single American women. It seems that recently I've been reading that 44-54% of American women are single.
With such a high percentage, it is no wonder I'm seeing so many books on the life of the single woman. I find it all rather fascinating since I was single until I was 27 and I have been wondering how other women dealt with this stage in their lives. Many are now single until way past 35 and for many this situation is a conscious choice.
So, what does a sexologist have to say about this subject? Well, he does focus on sex all while promoting positive changes. He basically gives single woman a much needed reality check. Is sex that satisfying for single women or would they enjoy sex more in a much more stable and secure environment, like marriage. Ian Kerner has talked to woman about their sex lives and he seems to have written this book to make women more aware of... read more
I hate self-help books
By Trixie - February 8, 2005
but i read this one in one sitting, from cover to cover. this is what i've needed for a long time--i'm 28,in NYC,& drum roll, a single lady. Haven't *had* anyone worth bragging about since college and in those (gasp) 6 years, i have maintained one or 2 rather unfulfilling "arrangements"...and i thought it was only me with the problem(s) and that something was wrong with me at my core.
Ian is right on, making me see clearly what i always suspected was the case: there isn't anything wrong with my soul, but i better watch out for myself and concentrate on making myself happy for real instead of just f*cking around with loser boys. He's put a modern spin on "you can't love someone else if you don't love yourself" with a dash of it's not just them, it's them and it's us together.
And it's not cheesy, it's not Pollyanna, it's not a quick fix.
So it's worth it!
Even Better than He's not that Into You
By A Reader with Gratitude and Appreciation - February 14, 2005
The book He's not that Into You is a book to help you "get over" the man who destroy your life and your self esteem. However, it does give women a passive attitude towards dating and finding the right person. Like I mentioned in my previous review, we women only take the belief of "He's not that Into You" when you decide his ambivalent behavior is ruining your life. Unlike He's not that Into You, the "Be honest - You're not that Into Him Either" gives women the opportunity to explore and learn more about her, surfacing the bottom line and the honest truth about life - Life is full of choices. I give more credits towards this book because it is written from a male sex therapist. I admire the author's deep knowledge about women (when I was reading the book, I wonder how was that even possible a male sex therapist would know so much about the honest truth) and had fun reading this book.
I like the way the author surface the truth of why most women cannot have sex/physical... read more
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