How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk

AVOID THE JERKS AND FIND “THE ONE” WHO'S RIGHT FOR YOU

"An insightful and creative contribution to managing the complexity of choosing a life partner. I heartily recommend it."
--Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find

"Don't be part of the 'where-was-this-book-when-I-needed-it?' crowd. It's not too late--read it now!"
--Pat Love, Ed.D., author of The Truth About Love and Hot Monogamy

Based on years of research on marital and premarital happiness, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk (previously published in hardcover as How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk) will help you break destructive dating patterns that have kept you from finding the love you deserve:

Ask the right questions to inspire meaningful, revealing conversations with your partner
Judge character based on compatibility, relationships skills, friends, and patterns from family and previous relationships
Resolve your own emotional baggage so you're ready for a healthy relationship

Customer Reviews:

Excellent for self analysis and relationship analysis

By A Reader from Chicago - October 25, 2006

[Update: As another reviewer has noted, "How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk" and "How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk" are the same books with different titles.]

Given that a choice of a marriage partner is one of the most important influences on a person's quality of life, you would think that people would want to know all there is to know about making that choice. So, what's wrong with just falling in love and getting married?

According to Van Epp, people are at their best before they get married--and how happy you are when you are dating is the ceiling for how happy you can be in marriage. Don't expect it to get better.

The relationships between each individual and their parents strongly influence a couple's relationship after the wedding. This new way of relating within the relationship kicks in after the marriage begins--when the role is no longer lovers and best friends, but husband and wife. So, you are marrying the person who relates to... read more

Great advice for singles--and married people, too

By M. L Lamendola - December 10, 2006

This is one of those books people wish they would have read, but didn't. In my case, I probably could have saved my ex-wife a lot of grief if I'd had this book to give her so many years ago....

Many books provide a list of "10 foolproof steps" at the one extreme (simplistic) or an exhausting checklist at the other. Van Epp takes a different approach. He identifies six general techniques you can use to identify a jerk before you make the mistake of marrying this person. He also provides a tool, called the Relationship Attachment Model (RAM), which has proven itself over many years of application. In fact, the RAM forms the central concept behind applying the six techniques.

One of the problems with self-help books for singles seeking a mate is you have to remain objective to be able to apply the tools, tips, and techniques suggested in the book. Once a relationship is underway, doing that is difficult or impossible. We either filter out negative information and... read more

Take the risk out of your marital choice!

By Arelius - September 11, 2006

This is the first review I've ever written for a book even though I've been purchasing Amazon books for years.

I'm only half way through this book and I feel compelled to give a positive review for this book. Perhaps I will post another review upon completing it.

You can never be too careful in your premarital preprations. Van Epp gives you the roadmap of what you should look for and how you should proceed down that path.

I recommend this book to every single person who hopes to establish a life-long relationship. It will only serve to help you make a very wise choice.

I plan on recommending this book to all my single friends!

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Merchant	Format	Price
Amazon US	Paperback	$3.55 - $16.95
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BookByte	Paperback	$12.71
eCampus	Paperback	~~$13.00~~ discount!