Taming Your Outer Child: A Revolutionary Program to Overcome Self-Defeating Patterns
FINALLY, THE BREAKTHROUGH BOOK THAT PUTS YOU BACK IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE
Most of us have met our Outer Child once too often. The self-sabotaging, bungling, and impulsive part of the personality. This misguided, hidden nemesis—the devil on your shoulder—blows your diet, overspends, and ruins your love life. A menacing older sibling to your emotionally needy Inner Child, your Outer Child acts out and fulfills your legitimate childlike needs and wants in the wrong place, at the wrong time, and in counterproductive ways: It goes for immediate gratification and the quick fix in spite of your best-laid plans. Food, attention, emotional release—your Outer Child usually gets what it wants, and your Adult self can feel powerless to stop it.
Now, in a revolutionary rethinking of the link between emotion and behavior, veteran psychotherapist and theoretician Susan Anderson offers a three-step, paradigm-shifting program to tame your Outer Child’s destructive behavior. This dynamic, transformational set of strategies—action steps that act like physical therapy for the brain—calms your Inner Child, strengthens your Adult Self and releases you from the self-blame and shame that are the root of Outer Child issues, and paves new neural pathways that can lead to more productive behavior. Discover
• the common Outer Child personality types, including the Drama Queen; the Master of Disguise; My Way or No Way; and Love the Getting, not the Having • proven techniques to resolve underlying sources of self-sabotage • insights that will allow you to stop blaming your supposed “lack of willpower” for your problems • key strategies for healing the painful issues of your past • mental exercises that effectively deal with Outer Child challenges around food, procrastination, love, debt, depression, and more
As your head, heart, and behavior come together and learn to help, not hurt, one another, your strong Adult Self, contented Inner child, and tamed Outer child will become a reality. The result is happiness and fulfillment, self-mastery, and self-love.
An important, life-changing book
By J. Solomon - June 2, 2011
I'm almost done reading this book and realize it's the book I've been looking for most of my life. The healing I've done reading this book has been more effective than decades of therapy (and I have a good therapist but she couldn't get to the depth of recovery that I've gotten to using this book as a tool). And wonderfully, the book covers all my "vices", from self-sabotage like issues with self-care (not exercising, not eating properly etc.) to relationship-related ones (and we all have them to one extent or another) etc. Everything I'm struggling with can be fit within her paradigm. I've restarted journaling while reading her book and have covered more ground in recent weeks than in years prior.
What I like the most about the book is how the author explains emotional topics in a way that makes sense, and uses examples but doesn't let the examples overwhelm the underlying discussion, and most importantly how she asks the reader to do exercises throughout the book... read more
This book is amazing.
By shaggygurl - February 9, 2011
This book is amazing it truley gives you the insight and the tools to not only change but sustain the change in your life. It also shows you steps to gain insight in to why you subconciously do the self-sabotaging things everyone does. If you truly want to change your life for the better no matter what your vice is this book can help. I wish I would have had the tools in this book 20 yrs ago.
A Must Read Book for Everybody!
By jeff goodman - January 30, 2011
Sue Anderson's new book, Taming Your Outer Child, is a progressive and intuitive guide to understanding how your ego tries to control your life; and the steps you can take NOW to change such destructive habits. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has struggled with their emotions and wants to stop patterns that have interfered with having a full and happy life.
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