Computers have changed not just the way we work but the way we love. Falling in and out of love, flirting, cheating, even having sex online have all become part of the modern way of living and loving. Yet we know very little about these new types of relationship. How is an online affair where the two people involved may never see or meet each other different from an affair in the real world? Does online sex still involve cheating on your partner? Why do people tell complete strangers their most intimate secrets? What are the rules of engagement? Will online affairs change the monogamous nature of romantic relationships? These are just some of the questions Professor Aaron Ben Ze'ev, distinguished writer and scholar, addresses in the first full length study of love online. Accessible, shocking, entertaining, enlightening, this book will change the way you look at cyberspace and love forever. Aaron Ben Ze'ev is a Professor at the Univeristy of Haifa in the Philosophy Department and has been the Rector of the University since 2000. He has published articles for many journals such as Behavioral and Brain Sciences, Philosophical Psychology, and Theory & Psychology among others. He has also had numerous books published including The Subtlety of Emotions (MIT Press, 2000) and The Perceptual System: A Philosophical and Psychological Perspective (Peter Lang,1993), both of which have been translated into Hebrew.
By Kimberly Brown "Kimberly Max Brown" - April 20, 2009
I thought this book was very insightful. I wanted to learn more about how people express affection on the internet. "Love Online" explained in a scholarly fashion just how the internet may encourage the kind of conversational yet increasingly intimate chat and e-mail that often gets people into trouble with their relationships.
Ben Ze'ev is a philosopher, much more so than a psychoanalyst. He is keen to demonstrate how the philosophical mores of the internet (independence, lack of censorship, etc.) break down the usual barriers to intimacy (shyness, vulnerability, truth, attraction, availability, etc.). Thus, the power inherent in internet communication fosters immense changes in traditional social relationships.
Ben Ze'ev reinforces the old adage that the mind is most sexual organ, while highlighting the ways the internet is conditioned to sustain romantic and sexual cerebral play. Once the communicators begin their online exchange, qualities that are most... read more
The best book ever on the lures of the cyberspace
By Britta Bergemann - April 27, 2006
This is, quite easily, the best book ever on the potential lures of the cyberspace; a unique analysis of one of the hottest topics of our times.
The book should be of tremendous value for academics and the interested public alike. The analysis of emotions - online and offline - is based on comprehensive academic research and previous work done by the author (Ben-Ze'ev, A. (2000). The Subtlety of Emotions. Cambridge, MA: MIT Press; also available at Amazon), and is combined with insightful perspectives on the aims and ends of online relationships. The style of writing is analytically sharp, witty and poetic at the same time.
Good but repetitive
By A. Avellone - May 28, 2013
There were a lot of neat ideas in this book, and it is definitely worth reading. My main complaint is that there was a LOT of repetition of many of the ideas. I think this book could be reduced to a third of its size and be more effective.
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