Raising Unselfish Children in a Self-Absorbed World
Decades of child-centered parenting have resulted in self-centered children, and parents are desperate for a new approach. In this insightful book, Rigby shines the light of reality on the self-esteem philosophy and espouses a new goal of parenting: gently bumping children off self-center and teaching them to be unselfish givers instead of self-absorbed takers. Using the metaphor of the window versus the mirror, Rigby explains that when parents strive to instill self-esteem in their children, they teach them to gaze only at themselves in the mirror. With the focus on themselves, children do not learn how to strive for goals, handle disappointment, or benefit from constructive criticism. This narcissist self-view engenders selfishness, mediocrity, and dysfunction. But when parents reframe their childrens point of view so they are, instead, looking through a window, these children still see a reflection of themselves, but at the same time, they are able to look beyond themselves to the needs of the greater world outside themselves. Rigbys encouraging approach shows parents that its never to late to change their childrens point of view and equip them to interact with kindness and respect in a world outside themselves. Teaching concepts such as developing a passion for compassion, learning to give by forgiving, and filling every day with thanksgiving, Raising Unselfish Children in a Self-Absorbed World offers a new paradigm for parentingone that educates the heart and teaches moms and dads how to parent with a new end in mind.
Parents looking to protect and guard their children from a culture of excess will applaud Rigby's efforts
By FaithfulReader.com - July 14, 2008
If only kids came with instruction manuals! That's the heart cry of many parents who are struggling to navigate the world of raising children. Living in our modern culture only compounds the complexities as parents are forced to make thousands of little decisions to determine "How much is enough?" versus "How much is too much?" while raising their kids.
Jill Rigby tries to assist parents in her new book, RAISING UNSELFISH CHILDREN IN A SELF-ABSORBED WORLD, which attempts to equip them with tactics to help deal with the narcissism and selfishness prevalent in our society. She begins by reassessing the goal of parenting and challenging moms and dads to think about how they're raising their kids and what they want them to become.
Drawing on timeless childhood stories like SNOW WHITE and THE SECRET GARDEN, she argues that parents have a choice to make. Will they raise their kids to become selfless grown-ups, or self-absorbed adults who can't function well because... read more
New Book for Parents
By Patti Chadwick "Patti Chadwick" - April 8, 2008
I just love the books by author Jill Rigby. I heard her once at a Hearts at Home Conference and have been a fan ever since. Her books hit on relevant topics and this one is no different.
In this book, Rigby points out that we are raising a generation of self-focused children who aren't ready to meet real life challenges at adults. She's right! But instead of leaving it there, she gives hope - as well as advice - on how we can change our parenting to reshape our child to be "other-foused".
Easy to read, relevant, and hopeful, Raising Unselfish Children in a Self-Absorbed World will help you raise your child to become an adult that makes a difference in their world.
Kudos to the author!
The best parenting book ever!
By Momma Mia - June 2, 2008
If you have children or plan on having children in the future, you must read and re-read this book! It gives detailed priciples and how-tos to train you children from the beginning. One of the biggest principles is that it begins with you as the parent and Jill gives instructions for you. I love how she breaks down the duties/responsiblities for the kids by age. As long as you have children living in your home, this is a must! I just gave a copy at a baby shower this weekend! This is a great way for a couple to plan how they will raise their children before the issues come up and surprise you. I heard about this book from Dr. Laura, thank you Dr. Laura!