It's All About Him: How to Identify and Avoid the Narcissist Male

Ever wonder why your guy can t seem to understand you? Does he just seem incapable of empathizing with you? Well, when your guy is a narcissist, it has nothing to do with you. That s because it s all about him. This engaging collection of personal anecdotes, combined with current scientific research, examines the typical traits of pathological narcissism. Clear examples from her own experiences help Lisa Scott explain why you fall for him, why he does what he does, and how to move on if you ve been hurt. Prevent the heartache that comes from falling in love with a narcissist before you or someone you care about gets hurt.

Customer Reviews:

NOT what the title promises

By Zee Jae - November 30, 2010

I think this is a good effort and I applaud the author for sharing her story. However, the subtitle of the book: "How to identify and avoid the Narcissist Male BEFORE YOU GET HURT" is entirely misleading. As author Lisa Scott confirms, Narcissists are excellent actors, and very compasionate and charming at the beginning of the relationship. They can even keep this up for months or even a year or so until you are "hooked". It was not until Lisa was ALREADY IN COMMITTED relationships with these two men that she admittedly realized they were narcissists and eventually left. She notes that the usual red flags--of a man appearing openly selfish, etc. are not there with narcissists, in the beginning. I was hoping this book would do what the cover promised: Give signs you can look for, or things you can do to unearth narccisstic personality disorder before you become truely, exclusively involved with someone. It doesn't.

In the section called "Why you fall for him" she only says... read more

Its All About Him

By mawh56 - September 28, 2010

Truly wasn't what I expected. Seemed to be more of just story telling/autobiography than an actual self help book. Some of the information along with the Author's telling of her personal relationship experience helped me relate and recall how my Narcissistic ex-lover acted and treated me. But, from the description of the book I thought I was purchasing a Self Help book that was going to help me from future relationships with Narcissists. And that wasn't the case. I returned the book in less than 2 weeks after receiving it. Sadly, I would not recommend this book to anyone who has now and has had a Narcissist in their life and are looking for help in how to deal with that Narcissist or avoid becoming involved with another Narcissist.

Sorry, Lisa.

By Incredulous - August 12, 2011

I was very disappointed with this book. First of all, the thing is only 87 pages long and it's a paperback. I can get a used college physics textbook with at least five hundred pages in it at this price or a dictionary with three times the pages for two dollars. So I'm not sure if this book is actually a book -- maybe a report, or a pamphlet -- but not a book.

Second of all, , here's a heads up: This book really IS all about him. All Lisa does in the book is talk about her two ex-boyfriends. She goes into detail about how they met and what happened between them and why they were awful narcissists. Peppered throughout the book are Narcissist Facts and quotes from Sam Vaknin, all of which you can find online.

There is no doubt that Lisa's boyfriends did some pretty crappy things to her. They were obviously not very interested in her and one of the guys almost let her drown in the ocean. That's a harrowing experience to be sure, and maybe these men were utter turds... read more