How to Be Happy, Content and
Enjoy your Life
Beyond the hassles of everyday life, you can experience so much, more. Perhaps you did not
no pressure, no rush. Your only objective is to love the other and not only their body but their
know that life could ever be. If you want to change your life . . . YOU CAN!!!
heart and soul as wel . If you do this, you wil find the ecstasy of true communion and the
Improve your Life, and Become Content
fulfil ment of oneness.
When you have made love like this, it continues throughout each day, because in each
and Happy within Yourself
action, each word, each thought and look you do al in a continual state to love and to make the
Everyone can be rich by finding peace and a life of inward wealth and happiness. Many seek
other person feel loved by making love to their entire being.
outward possessions and pleasures, but the way to peace, joy, love, and an abundant Life are
Many believe that intimacy just deals with sex. Sex is only a picture or a type of
only found within oneself. It is to our advantage to look for those things that help us, heal us,
intimacy. Yet it is only the beginning, of intimacy. We can also share this way of the mind, then
and bring about an inward health and a better life.
that of the heart, then that of the soul. It is being naked and exposed to one another without
shame, in trust, acceptance, and understanding, mutual honor and respect, and being joined and
completed in each other and in truth the extension of each other in love, peace, and harmony.
1) Examine your life closely. Evaluate and accept who you are without any condemnation. Self-
acceptance does not mean you approve of your faults, the things you do, and what you have
done. It is recognizing the bad and the ugly along with the good and the sweet. If you can
accept yourself, you can then change the things you do not like and you start to love what you
2) Examine your faults without fear, guilt, or shame. You are not seeking to condemn yourself
but to help yourself and to live a better and ful er life. Try to understand why it is you do things
good or bad, and what things hurt yourself and others. Consider the cost of not changing, the
rewards if you do, and the difference it wil make in your life.
3) You must change your understanding by gaining a new perspective, which wil cause you to
act accordingly. This process is not done by wil power or by outside force, by brain washing or
the application of principles, but by renewing of your mind. You cannot make yourself into
something you are not. Any change otherwise would be unnatural for you and in time your
actions would revert back to the way they were according to the person you remained.
4) Anytime you do not attain or act as you wanted, you have not failed, you just do not yet understand
how to do it. So without casting blame, finding fault, and without harshness to yourself and to others,
continue in your efforts and your path. With every change within you, you change the world around
you. Actions caused by positive intentions, bring about good and profitable effects for everyone.
*Don't let yourself live by your impulses but watch over your motives and guard your heart.
Always consider what is good and kind; and you wil be guided by it.
* Don't ever quit because of lack of progress or difficulty. Each time you miss your goal you
are one step closer to where you want to be. There is no failure just a need for further
understanding which gives you a better chance to attain what you desire.
* When you begin to worry or become negative about things, realize that it does nothing useful
or productive and wil have no positive affect on the outcome but wil cause you and those around
you to suffer, and undermine the very thing you wish to do.
* Stop hurting yourself and others by al owing that which is detrimental, such as anger to
control your actions, words, thoughts, feelings and decisions.
There is no intention of the manipulation or the thought of foreplay. In love making al things are
enjoyed and experienced without any intention or agenda of fulfil ing one's own wants. There is
How to speak from your heart
Most often our words are selected from random emotions and thoughts, and we say whatever we
Be diligent and render to the best of your ability what you are being paid to do. Be honest,
are feeling or thinking at the time. This usual y causes hurt, confusion, and misunderstanding.
cooperative, and fol ow your supervisor's instructions. Promote team work, a positive attitude,
We seldom have control over our words because we speak as we are feeling that moment
and the ability to be able to enjoy your work. Avoid grumbling and complaining. Think of your job
without pausing to regard our hearts and to focus on what it is we real y want in our lives and not
as a service to others and to God. Find the joy and meaning in it, and it wil no longer be or feel
according to the feeling of the moment.
By speaking from your heart you:
Diffuse the tension and anger of the moment and break through barriers
Thoughts on How to Live
Are saying what you mean and want to say
You can only change according to the time it takes to understand. Be patient and al ow yourself
Bypass al interference and speak directly to the others person’s heart
whatever time it takes to learn, to see, to grow, and to adapt.
Al ow them to experience the words you say
Al ow them to speak back from their heart
Love yourself and others in the same way God loves you, and you wil do no harm to yourself or
Harm neither yourself nor the other person but al ow healing and life
to them. Treat others with respect. Focus on what you can do for others. Be merciful and kind in
your attitude and actions toward al .
As you feel overwhelmed by al the impulses that flood your mind, say "no" to them,
ignore them, and think what your heart real y wants to say. That may sound sil y at first, it may
Remember you too have faults and shortcomings, so be patient and tolerate those in others.
even seem awkward til you realize this is what you real y wanted to say.
Remember the times you have wronged others whenever others happen to wrong you.
When your heart speaks you are not arguing nor looking to accuse. It only wants to
Remember we are al human and often make mistakes. Do not worry about who to blame but
hear and to respond in love. Love does not find fault but confesses and is sorry for any wrong or
instead ask yourself what actions or words can improve the situation. For the most part everyone
harm done. Love wil always act in behalf and for the good of the one you love.
is trying to do the best that they can so it is good to realize this and not to expect more. Al ow
Love speaks offering gifts, pleasant and good dreams. Love believes, hopes, trusts,
them the grace and patience to in time to be able to make the good choice.
and endures. It never hurts the other or seeks to strike back. So if you are with someone you
love, whether in joy or in difficulties, speak the words you want to say from within your heart to
Continual y examine your intentions, feelings, thoughts, and everyday behavior in the context of
the heart within the other. You might say something like this.
each moment, and adjust your outlook according to the way you desire in life and who you want
"When I am with you, I am happy and at peace. When I see you smile it is a wonderful
gift that never wil get old. When you touch me it makes me feel ful of life. I am glad I am here
Admit your wrong doings against others with sorrow and without making excuses for yourself.
with you, and I look forward to every minute I can spend with you. There is nowhere I would
Take responsibility for your actions and communicate it to those who are affected, and apologize.
rather be than with you here and now."
Do what you can to correct it, and do what you can to prevent it from reoccurring. Understand
Sure it seems corny, or maybe too much like a line, but when such things are said
this is not about guilt or shame but about sorrow for the hurt we have caused, and about what is
from the heart, it is not the words that are heard but the essence of what one feels within the
good for the wel -being of al
heart. So do not think about what line to say, speak with the words that are in your heart.
Appreciate what others give or do with kindness without being critical. Appreciate others and
Once you know or understand how to make love, you can make love in a touch, in a word, or in a
never take them or any gift for granted.
smile. You can make love by opening a door, in giving a hug, or in a soft kiss. In every action or
word you can be continual y be making love to your mate.
Be accepting and neutral about negative events or il -treatment. Al is not good and fair in life.
It is hard to imagine but making love has little to do with sex, it is about giving love and
Accept hardship without complaint and it wil work what is good in you and help you to grow.
receiving love in such a way you are giving love back to the other. It is about a one way street in
Defuse any grumbling or complaining inside because these lead to bitterness, resentment, and
which you travel together, where nothing is ever taken nor is the other ever forced to do anything
against their wil or desire. Neither is it a business transaction of doing one thing to receive
something from the other. This is what sex is about, not making love. Making love has nothing
Choose not to give in or respond according to your anger, choose to say and do what is good for
to do with gratifying yourself, but the giving of oneself purely and completely to make the other
others by choosing to love instead. If you act in anger, you not only do harm to others but you
feel above al else loved and honored.
also harm yourself. When others do wrong to you, often there is no intention to hurt or harm.
Most often it is just an accident, an oversight, or a misunderstanding.
Be quick to hear and slow to speak. Be honest, yet do not use the truth as a weapon to hurt or
There is only one of you in al of time. So desire to be al you could be and the joy of life. Find
punish others, but to help, heal, and resolve. Peaceably communicate the truth in the hope of
completeness and fulfil ment by becoming who you wish to become, seeking, to live according to
handling any situation, to neutralize or to correct any miscommunication or harsh words.
your renewed understanding. Listen to your spirit, your heart, and your conscience; let them
Consider what others say according to their opinion and their value system for these mean as
guide you through change, choosing what is positive and good for yourself and your life.
much to them as yours do to you. More often than not, it is not helpful to be disagreeable, and
arguing does more harm than good. Offer an alternative perspective or thought for the people to
Many messages you have heard throughout your life may not be true. These inaccurate
consider if you think that it might be helpful. Accept others in their beliefs, opinions, and
perceptions may drain or abuse you internal y, or distort your perception of yourself and others.
imperfections. Accept them rather than judge or be offended. Realize beliefs are sacred and
Question the validity of such messages and the evidence that supports them. If they do not stand
should be treated with respect. We should more often concern ourselves with living good, kind,
up under examination they are nothing more than myths and lies meant to promote prejudice,
and peaceful lives rather than the debating, arguing, and judging others.
hate, misunderstanding, fear, and deceit. Let them go. Recognize them and see the harm and
damage toward ourselves and humanity when we as a race of beings believe in them.
Desire to make peace rather than to stir up strife. Generate harmony rather than discontentment.
Cooperate rather than to fight against or compete. Build others up and share what is helpful to
Let us be for one another and not against. Our difference of values, lifestyle, and opinions do not
their wel -being rather than tear them down or criticize.
mean we are incompatible, just different and our differences are only a means to grow, to expand
and to learn from one another. What things could be done if al worked together for the good of
Instead of saying “No,” ask yourself why not say “Yes.” Realize your way may not be the best
al rather than for the good of self, or of a few or of one group over another.
way and often one way is as good as another. Yet if you are convicted in certain matters, say or
do what you need in kindness. Accept the criticism of others as a means to see what you might
Reach out in fel owship with others who desire the similar things. Share yourself through love,
need to change in order to become more complete. Consider the truth of these things rather
friendship, kindness, peace, and al the good things in life.
than deny them. It may be difficult to hear and to admit, but in doing so you can grow even more.
Do what is right and just in the eyes of God within your own heart. Enjoy your strengths, talents,
You do not need to think you are wonderful or awful. Al you need to know is that you are loved
and creativity that are gifts to benefit others, but realize these do not make you better than
and accepted by God. Your life is not a matter of how good or how great you are or think you
anyone. You are just a steward who has been entrusted with these gifts and with the life you
are, it is that you can walk in fel owship and harmony with God and the rest of humanity.
live. So enjoy your life and share what you have been given to enrich and benefit those around
Seek to be complete, harmonious, balanced and aligned in mind, heart, body and soul.
Determine what is good and pursue it in a way that you wil not give up or grow discouraged by
Enjoy and appreciate al of the gifts and talents of others that they have without being threatened,
keeping focused on the path before you, and on the treasures found in Life.
knowing that they too are stewards of the beauty and talents that lie within them, these qualities
are not to be discouraged but al owed to thrive and to blossom into ful ness.
If we could cast aside our own selfishness, arrogance, and our inflated imagination of ourselves it
Seek the simpler things in life and to be happy with what you have and with the direction you are
would free us to grow and live a life where we do not spoil ourselves in our infatuations with
headed. Strive to be more of who you want to be than to have things which have no affect on
ourselves and indulgent cravings, but see the needs and the value of those around us.
who you are and distract you from a higher quality of life. Live by your true needs and appreciate
life's true treasures. Find fulfil ment in how you live and in who you are. Cherish the joy of each
Life is a gift. Enjoy every experience rather than fearing it. Remain teachable and ask questions
moment, and pleasures of simplicity and love in everyday life.
or for help when you need it. Focus on the item at hand, and deal with it to the best of your
understanding while applying yourself to improve. Al ow al things to strengthen and teach you
about life, yourself and to have more compassion toward others.
Live without fear and live with hope and in wonder. You can experience life by embracing the
moment, regardless of outer circumstances, trusting in the process of wisdom, and knowing in
time you wil reap what you sow. If you sow what is good and healthy you shal reap these things
in your life. Express love and gratitude to others, and increasingly appreciate the wonder of life
and the blessings you have received.