How to make anyone fall in LOVE with you

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How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You
Leil Lowndes
CONTEMPORARY BOOKS
A TRIBUNE COMPANY
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Lowndes, Leil.
How to make anyone fall in love with you / Leil Lowndes.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 0-8092-3211-1
1. Love. 2. Man-woman relationships. 3. Intimacy
(Psychology) 4. Sexual excitement. I. Title.
HQ801.L69 1996
306.7--dc20 96-14502
CIP

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Jacket design by Scott Rattray
Interior design by Mary Lockwood
Excerpt from Obsession:
Copyright (c) 1995 by Debra McCarthy-Anderson and Carol Bruce-Thomas. All rights reserved.
Reproduced with the permission of the publisher, Harlequin Books S.A.
Copyright (c) 1996 by Leil Lowndes
All rights reserved
Published by Contemporary Books
An imprint of NTC/Contemporary Publishing Company
Two Prudential Plaza, Chicago, Illinois 60601-6790
Manufactured in the United States of America
International Standard Book Number: 0-8092-3211-1
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To fulfill the promise of the title, How to
Make Anyone Fall in Love with You offers
85 techniques based on scientific studies into
the nature of romantic love.
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CONTENTS
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Anyone? Yes, Practically Anyone
Science "Discovers" Sex
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How More Research Was Compiled
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How the Techniques Were Developed
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How I Tested the Techniques
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What Makes People Fall in Love? The Six Elements

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What Makes People Fall in Love? The Six Elements
I. First Impressions
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II. Similar Character, Complementary Needs
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III. Equity
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IV. Ego
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V. Early-Date Gender-Menders
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VI. Rx for Sex
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The Physical Side of Falling in Love
"Why Do My Insides Go All Funny?"
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"Does Somebody Have to Be Pea-Brained to Fall in Love with Me?"
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"Why Do We Fall in Love with One Person and Not Another?"
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"How Can These Little Things Start Love?"
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Where Are All the Good Men and Women?
Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places
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Does Love at First Sight Exist?
Part One: First Impressions You Never Get a Second
Chance at Love at First Sight
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How to Make a Dynamite First Impression
First Impressions Last Forever
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First Impressions Last Forever
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Be Ready for Love--Always!
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Stay Psychologically "Fit to Kill"
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How to Ignite Love at First Sight
How Much Eye Contact Does It Take to Imitate Love?
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How to Get Sexy "Bedroom Eyes"
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How to Awaken Primal, Unsettling, Sexy Feelings in Your Quarry
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Naughty Eyes Are So Nice
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Your First Approach
The Gentle Art of Pickup (Not for Men Only)
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Hunters, Make the First Move . . . Fast
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Huntresses, Make the Fast Move . . . First
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First Moves That Work for Women
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Your First Body Language
Let Your Body Do the Talking
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When You Are Quarry
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The Word That Can Save Your Relationship
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"But This Is So Basic!"
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Your First Conversation
Conversation Is Making Beautiful Music Together
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Conversation Is Like Making Love
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Conversation Is Like Making Love
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Conversation Is Like Selling
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How to Know What Topics Turn Your Quarry On
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How to Fool Your Quarry into Thinking You Two Are Already in Love
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Get Even Closer by Giving the Gift of Intimacy
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Make Your Lifestyle "Fit" Your Quarry's Lovemap
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Your First Date
The Game Begins in Earnest
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"How Soon Should I Make My Move?"
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"Playing Hard to Get--Should I, or Shouldn't I?"
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The Scientifically Proved Best First Date
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Give Your Quarry First-Date Butterflies
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Plant the Seeds of Similarity
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First-Date Restaurant Smarts
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Hunters, Some Spit and Polish for Your P's and Q's
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Huntresses, Forgive His Foibles
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First-Date Duds
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"I Haven't Got a Thing to Wear"
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Part Two: Similar Character, Complementary Needs I
Want a Lover Just Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)!

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Want a Lover Just Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)!
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"It's You and Me, Baby, Alone Against This Mad, Mad
World"
Similarity . . . and a Touch of Difference (Just a Touch)
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How to Establish Subconscious Similarity
How to Instantly Make Your Quarry Feel, "Why, We're Just Alike!"
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Words to Give Your Quarry "That Family Feeling"
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"We Even Speak the Same (Body) Language"
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How to Establish Conscious Similarity
The Three Crucial Conscious Similarities
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Let's Talk About Our Relationship--Not!
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How to Establish Complementary Needs
"I Got Just What You Need, Baby"
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Part Three: Ego How Do You Love Me? Let Me Count
the Ways
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The World Revolves Around You, My Quarry
Ego Massage Is a Highly Skilled Craft
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Step One: Silent Praise

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Step One: Silent Praise
Let Your Body Do the Praising
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Step Two: Empathy
"I Can Identify with That!"
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Lovers Share Intimate Details
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Lovers Have Private Jokes
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Step Three: Admiration
"Oh Honey, You Did an Absolutely Superb Job Slicing These
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Mushrooms"
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Step Four: The Implied Compliment
"You're Much Too Young to Remember This, But . . ."
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The Bull's-Eye Booster: "I Just Love What You Like About Yourself"
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Step Five: The Big Guns
"You Are the Most Fascinating Person I've Ever Met"
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"What Does Giving a Killer Compliment Do for Me?"
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Fine-Tuning the Ego Machine
"Wait a Minute. Does Everybody Like Compliments?"
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Knee-Jerk Praise: "What You Just Did Was Fabulous"
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Have the First Laugh
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Lovers Give Each Other Pet Names
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When Your Quarry Praises You
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Keeping the Love Coals Warm
"I Love the Way You Wrinkle Your Nose When You Laugh"
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Part Four: Equity The WIIFM Principle of Love (What's
in It for Me?)
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Everybody's Got a Market Value, Baby
Why Is Finding Love Like Horse Trading?
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What Currency "Buys" a Good Partner?
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How Can I Use the Equity Principle to Find Love?
You Really Don't Want to Marry the Handsome Prince or the Beautiful
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Princess
"Why Don't I Want to Marry Up?
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"What Happens if Inequity Strikes After We're Married?"
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How Important Are Looks?
What Type of Looks Do Women Like?
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What Type of Looks Do Men Like?
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"How Can I Make My Quarry Think I'm Better Looking?"
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How to Beef Up Your Odds on Making the Kill
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Pursuing Rich and Famous Prey

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Pursuing Rich and Famous Prey
The Look of Money
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The Sound of Class
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What Does the U Crowd Talk About?
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Use Status Words with Status Prey
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Upping Your Ante in Other Assets
Knowledge, Social Graces, and Inner Beauty Are Tangible Assets
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Help Them Convince Themselves That They Love You
Let Your Quarry Do Favors for You
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Hey! What About "O Lyric Love, Half Angel and Half Bird"?
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Part Five: Early-Date Gender-Menders Is There Love
After Eden?
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"I Hope He or She's Not a Jerk Like All the Others"
"I Want a Man I Can Talk to, a Woman Who Thinks Like a Man"
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What Is "Man Talk" and What Is "Woman Talk"? (Does It
Exist?)
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"How Do You Feel About That?"
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"Excuse Me, Could You Tell Me Where . . ."

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"Excuse Me, Could You Tell Me Where . . ."
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"Please, Spare Me the Details"
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"Tell Me (Don't Tell Me) About It"
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"What's the Best Way to Get from Point A to Point B?"
"A Straight Line!" He Declares; "A Gentle Curve?" She Asks
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"Could You Give Me a Hand with This?"
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Little Words to Win Your Quarry's Heart
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Are There Dangerous Waters Ahead in the Gender Gap?
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Part Six: Rx For Sex How to Turn On the Sexual
Electricity
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Your Quarry's Hottest Erogenous Zone
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No Two Sexualities Are Alike, as No Two Snowflakes Are
Alike
How Do Men's and Women's Sexual Desires Differ?
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Why Are Men's and Women's Fantasies So Different?
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Yet More Differences
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How to Use Differences to Make Your Quarry Fall in Love with You
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