How To Save My
9 Things You Ought To Know
About Your Relationship
Written by JD Dean
“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order
to get something. They're trying to find someone who's
going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a
relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a
place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to
take.” - Anthony Robbins
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SAVING A RELATIONSHIP - JIM & LISBET'S SOLUTION ..................................................................................... 5 YOU CAN SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP..................... 9 HOW TO BUILD TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP..... 12 HOW TO KEEP WOMEN HAPPY.................................... 15 HOW TO SURVIVE YOUR HUSBAND AND MARRIAGE! ................................................................................. 19 WARNING SIGNS OF A BREAKUP ................................ 23 KNOWING WHEN TO END A RELATIONSHIP...... 27 WHY MEN LEAVE RELATIONSHIPS ............................ 33 WHY WOMEN LEAVE MEN................................................ 36 RECOMMEND RESOURCES .............................................. 40 © http://romanceblues.com/Page
Saving A Relationship - Jim
& Lisbet's Solution
Jim works long hours and Lisbet doesn’t feel he is there for
her. Lisbet spends all of her time meeting the children’s
needs and Jim feels that she doesn’t have time for his
needs? Can this relationship be saved? Should it be saved?
Here’s how to save a relationship.
First, you must decide whether the relationship is worth
saving. While almost every relationship can be saved with
hard work, both parties must decide that they want to make
it work. Because if a partner has opted out and doesn’t
want to opt back in, there is little that can be done.
Many people stay in a relationship because it is convenient
or remain in a marriage because of the children. But that is
How to save a relationship starts with a commitment by
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Next, you must pinpoint the problem or problems in a
relationship. One of the biggest problems in how to save a
relationship is that people believe the symptoms of the
problem are the problem itself.
For instance, many people think an affair is a problem that
causes break ups. In truth, the affair is a symptom of a
For instance, a lack of true intimacy can lead to a straying
spouse. While most people look at the affair as the
problem, the underlying cause of the affair was the lack of
intimacy in the primary relationship.
If you do not deal with the lack of intimacy, you might be
able to keep another affair from starting through the use of
guilt, but another problem (for instance pornography) could
pop up because you haven’t dealt with the core issue.
When you start to deal with core issues rather than
symptoms, you can save the relationship.
Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin
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own feelings and listening to your partner’s concerns. Hold
your partner’s had when you are talking about your
problems as a signal that you want to reconnect even when
your emotions are swirling.
When your partner talks about things that hurt you
remember that he or she is not doing it because he or she
wants to hurt you. Rather it is because they want to
improve the relationship.
Once you have detailed the problems in your relationship,
create an action plan to solve them. Then, take concrete
steps on your action plan. If you don’t spend time together
like you used to, plan a date night every week.
Take turns coming up with creative ways to spend an
evening together each Wednesday. If not communicating
is the problem, commit to spending 20 minutes before
going to bed just talking to one another. And, then do it.
Finally, you should realize that saving a relationship is an
ongoing process. You are going to take two steps forward
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laughter and tears going forward. Be quick to apologize
and slow to blame.
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You Can Save Your
Whether you've recently broken up, or you're afraid you're
on the brink of a breakup you can take heart, saving a
relationship is possible. You can reignite the flame that the
two of you once shared. It won't necessarily be easy or
fast, but if you're committed to making it work there is
I've compiled a list of some of the things you need to do to
salvage and repair your relationship. Keep these tips in
mind when you are analyzing your relationship:
1. Do you really want to stay in the relationship? I know
this may sound like a dumb question but sometimes when
we think we want to keep our relationship what we really
mean is that we're afraid of having to find someone new, or
starting over. If you're brutally honest with yourself you
can determine if you really want to continue the
relationship or if you're just scared of being on your own.
Another part of this question is to determine if your partner
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decide that your relationship is worth saving, that doesn't
mean your partner shares your conviction or will be willing
to invest the time and effort to work on your problems.
2. Honestly evaluate what went wrong in your relationship.
Again, this will need to be done by both of you. This can
be the hardest part, it's always easier to blame someone else
for the problems but it's tougher to own up to your part in
the break down of your relationship.
Before you can repair it you need to know not only what is
broken but why it broke. The two of you may even want to
visit a couples counselor to help you objectively work
through this phase. Sometimes having an objective third
party in the room can help you both stay calm and face
things you may not have been willing or able to face on
3.Try to remember what drew you to each other in the first
place. If you've been in a relationship for a while you
obviously loved and enjoyed each other. So often in a
relationship what happens is that the 'stronger' one (or the
most selfish one) controls the relationship. They become
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