of a Marriage
Policies and Guidelines of
All Saints' Episcopal Church
The Church is a wonderful place for a wedding.
It is an even better place for a marriage.
“The union of husband and wife in heart, body, and mind is
intended by God for their mutual joy; for the help and comfort
given one another in prosperity and adversity; and, when it is
God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the
knowledge and love of the Lord.
Therefore, marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or
lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the
purposes for which it was instituted by God.” (From “The
Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage,” The Book of Common
This wedding brochure is intended to be an introduction to the
Sacrament of Christian Marriage as it is celebrated in the life of
All Saints’ Episcopal Church. It is also intended to answer some of
the more frequently asked questions about holding weddings here.
Because All Saints’ has been blessed with a beautiful physical
church building that is open all people on their spiritual journeys,
we desire to assist people on their life's commitments.
Therefore, while questions about the availability of the church
building are important, they are rightly asked only after other
questions have been asked and answered. For example:
• Why Christian marriage?
• Why this particular community of faith?
• Why get married at this point in my life?
• What is my commitment to God and the church?
Please read this brochure through, and then give us a call. We
would love the chance to share the love of God made known in
this place and to support you as you make this pivotal step in your
Grace and Peace,
The Rev. Stephen D Whitney-Wise
Rector, All Saints' Episcopal Church
Christian marriage is a solemn and public covenant be-
Marriage is a solemn Sacrament of the Church, and in order
tween a man and a woman in the presence of God, in
to maintain the dignity and solemnity of that Sacrament, only
which they enter into a life-long union, make their vows
discreet photography or video recordings are allowed during
before God and the Church, and receive the grace and
the liturgy. The only exception is that a flash picture may be
blessing of God to help them fulfill their vows. The Sac-
taken from the rear of the church as the bride and groom are
rament of Marriage is to be entered into -- and lived out
walking down the aisle AFTER the service is over.
within -- a community of faith.
Marriage in the Episcopal Church
The only exception is that if your photographer is informed
In the Episcopal Church, it is required that at least one of
in advance, he or she can be prepared to take (from the rear
the parties be a baptized Christian; that the ceremony be
of the church, on a tripod) a NON-FLASH EXPOSURE of
attested by at least two witnesses; and that the marriage
the scene at the chancel or altar rail during the service. Such
conform to the laws of the State, and the Canons of the
photographs usually turn out very well. Reposing for pictures
after the service is restricted to 30 minutes. This is necessi-
tated by the need of the Altar Guild to prepare the altar for
The rector of this church officiates at all weddings, al-
the next service. There are no restrictions on photographs in
though clergy of other traditions may be invited to partici-
the parish hall or outside the church.
pate. The wedding service is always in accordance with
The Book of Common Prayer. The Episcopal Church re-
quires that the minister officiating at a marriage must be
It Is the Responsibility of the Bride and Groom to comply
certain that the bride and groom have been instructed
with all logistics and familiarize yourself with all policies.
about the nature, meaning, and purpose of Holy Matri-
If you have questions please contact the parish office or
mony (see page five).
In cases where a prior marriage has ended in divorce or
The people of All Saints’ hope that this brochure is helpful
annulment, the Bishop of Oregon must grant permission
as couples prepare not only for their wedding, but for their
for the marriage to take place in the church. In such in-
lifelong commitment to one another in marriage.
stances, it is normative for All Saints’ church to ask per-
mission of the Bishop only after persons have been active,
committed members of this parish for at least one year.
After the initial consultation, the All Saints’ Wedding Con-
Marriage in the State of Oregon
sultant will forward a Wedding Information Sheet to the cou-
The clergy at All Saints’ are licensed by the State of
ple. A wedding date will be considered confirmed only af-
Oregon to officiate at weddings. It is the responsibility of
ter the information is completed and on file. The form will
the couple to procure a license in the county courthouse of
be used to complete all canonical forms and the bulletin for
either the bride or the groom’s residence.
the service, if one is desired.
Marriage at All Saints’ Church
Weddings are normally scheduled on Saturdays between
It is the belief of All Saints’ Episcopal Church that
10:00 a.m. and 4:00 p.m. Weddings are not normally held on
Christian marriage is entered into -- and lived out within -
Sundays, holiday weekends, or during the season of Advent.
- a community of faith. It is therefore understood that the
Weddings are never held during the season of Lent.
persons who wish to be married at All Saints’ are active,
committed parishioners either here or in the community of
Rehearsal: There is normally a rehearsal at 5:00 p.m. on the
faith in which they live. The rector of this church has
day before the wedding for all members of the wedding
established policies and customs to assist couples at the
party. The rehearsal will be brief and it is important that all
beginning of their life-long covenant with God and with
participants are ON TIME for the rehearsal. The All Saints’
Parish Wedding Consultant assists the clergy in coordinating
and conducting all aspects of the liturgy; no other wedding
coordinator is needed or allowed at the rehearsal or wedding.
It is within the discretion of any clergy of this Church to
decline to solemnize any marriage.
Alcohol: While it may not be so in your case, regrettably
it is sometimes necessary to state that there is a strict NO
DRINKING POLICY WITH REGARD TO ALL MEM-
It is a requirement of the Episcopal Church that the
BERS OF THE WEDDING PARTY. No alcoholic bever-
Officiant (the clergy who is to perform the service) has
ages will be consumed by any member of the wedding party
ensured that the bride and groom have been instructed
on the day of the wedding PRIOR to the service.
about the nature, meaning, and purpose of Holy
Matrimony. In order to fulfill this requirement, pre-
There can be no exception to this and any member of the
marriage counseling is required of couples wishing to
wedding party found to have been drinking will be excused
be married at All Saints’.
from the service.
Pre-marriage counseling consist of an initial meeting with
the clergy, attending either the Northwest Catholic
Counseling Center or Samaritan Counseling Center
sessions on marriage, followed by three (3) sessions of
pre-marital counseling with the rector of All Saints'.
Exceptions may be made when one or both parties reside
Exceptions may be made when one or both parties reside
Ministry of Administration
outside the State of Oregon or at a great distance.
An All Saints’ Wedding Consultant handles all adminis-
trative matters regarding weddings at All Saints’.
The counseling covers such topics as:
• the Church’s blessing – why seek it for your
• family and family dynamics
• the use of time and money
• religious beliefs and what to do when differences
Church Use Fee
In many cases, at the discretion of the clergy, additional
pre-marriage counseling, with a professional marriage
counselor, may be required.
The rector and the counselor work together in preparing
All the above forms and fees, as well as a completed mar-
the couple for marriage and therefore, maintain open
riage license must be received by the All Saints’ Wedding
communication regarding the progress of the pre-marital
Consultant a minimum of two weeks before the wedding
counseling. The couple will be required to sign a Release
of Information between the rector and the counselor.
Additional Details regarding the ceremony itself (use of
The cost of the pre-marriage communication workshop is
ring bearers, flower girls, the availability of wedding bul-
determined by Premarital Workshops and is not a cost set
letins, dressing rooms, etc., prohibitions on the use of a
by this parish. The pre-marital counseling sessions
center aisle runner, rice or confetti, etc., the availability of
required by the Clergy, are provided by a licensed clinical
the Parish Hall for receptions,) will be provided by All
social worker and fees are determined by the counselor.
Saints' at the appropriate time.
All costs are the responsibility of the couple seeking to be
married; in cases where these costs pose severe financial
When Is the Wedding Date Set?
hardship, financial aid can be applied for.
Only after the premarital counseling has been initiated,
a date has been checked with the Parish Calendar, and
permission for the wedding has been granted.
a preliminary conference with the Director of Music Min-
Further Iteration for Scheduling a Wedding at All
istries of All Saints' Episcopal Church.
Ministry of Music
When the bride or the groom is a Member of All
The All Saints’ Director of Music Ministries normally
provides all music for weddings at All Saints'. We
Active, regularly-attending members who have been
strongly encourage the use of classical music and hymns
known to the treasurer through a written financial pledge
from The Hymnal 1982. Additional music, musicians, so-
the previous year should watch the service bulletin and
loists, etc., while appropriate, must be authorized by Di-
Bell Ringer for dates and times for the course "Getting To
rector of Music Ministries and the All Saints’ rector.
Know The Episcopal Church."
Ministry of the Altar Guild
When neither the bride nor groom are Members of All
The All Saints’ Altar Guild provides one of its members
Saints' but the parents of either the bride or the groom
as the Parish Wedding Consultant. This person, in coop-
eration with a team of devoted volunteers, is extremely
If the parents of either the bride or the groom are regu-
knowledgeable about wedding protocol in general and All
larly attending members who have been known to the
Saints' protocol in particular. The Parish Wedding Con-
treasurer through a written financial pledge the previous
sultant will provide liturgical advice, and supervises and
year, then the first step is for the couple themselves to de-
directs the logistics of the rehearsal and the wedding cere-
termine if is the community of faith within which they in-
mony itself. It has been the experience at All Saints' that
tend to begin living out their marriage vows. If it is, then
outside Wedding Coordinators are not necessary and are
they are to contact the rector of All Saints’ for an initial
often, in fact, detrimental to the efficient planning and
consultation before setting a date for the wedding.
conduct of your wedding. They will not be permitted.
Flowers used in the church are arranged by the All Saints’
If the couple does not live in or near the Portland area,
Altar Guild, in consultation with and in consideration of
then the first step is to make arrangements to comply with
the preferences of the couple. Our volunteers are trained
all the pre-marital counseling and other requirements of
and experienced in providing floral arrangements appro-
the church to which they belong. Early in that process, the
priate to our liturgical space. Commercial florists may not
clergy in charge of the couple’s church should contact the
provide arrangements used in any liturgical space.
clergy of All Saints’ to coordinate logistics, because in
such cases, the clergy of All Saints’ will normally invite
the couple’s own clergy person to share in the wedding
ceremony as a co-officiant.
When there is no relationship to All Saints’, but the
The Church’s Discretionary Fund, which is used by the
couple is active in another faith community:
clergy in fulfilling their ministry in the community, is al-
While it is not possible for All Saints’ to make its build-
ways an appropriate area for an additional gift made at the
ing available for couples who are simply interested in us-
ing the facilities on the day of their wedding, it is possible
for a couple from another denomination to be married at
Flowers: A complete list of regulations regarding flowers
All Saints’ if the rector is to officiate.
will be made available at the appropriate time. Please con-
sult the Wedding Consultant.
When neither of the couple is currently an active
member of any church:
Sexton: In all cases, there is a $75 fee for the Sexton, who
Then the couple’s first step is to find and join a commu-
is needed to open, unlock and prepare the church, and af-
nity of faith in which they intend to live out their vows,
terwards to clean the church in preparation for Sunday
and make arrangements to be married there. Please know
services, and to lock up. The check should be made pay-
that the clergy and people of All Saints’ are happy to as-
able to All Saints’ Church with a notation in the memo
sist couples in their search for a church home.
field “Sexton Services”.
Having understood and complied with the items above,
Wedding Consultant: The fee for the services of the All
the next step is to contact the All Saints’ parish office in
Saints’ Wedding Consultant is $75. Duties include the co-
order to arrange an initial consultation with the rector. At
ordination of the Altar Guild, the photographer, the flo-
this meeting, a program for the premarital communication
rist, the organist, the preparation of the wedding bulletin
workshop and premarital counseling counselor will be
and any and all functions as they relate to the ceremony at
discussed and arranged, and a tentative wedding date will
the All Saints’. The check should be made payable All
Saints’ Church with a notation in the memo portion of
If a couple wishes to be married at All Saints’ Church,
then no wedding date may be announced, no invitations
Fees and Honoraria of the Church: There is no fee for
may be ordered, and no reception sites should be booked
use of the church by persons who are active worshipers at
until the couple has had their initial consultation, a pro-
All Saints’ Church and who have been known to the treas-
gram of counseling and they have agreed to all of the
urer through a written financial pledge the previous year.
For others, there is a $250.00 fee for use of the Church,
which is used for the continuing maintenance and mission
The following policies and customs are supported by the
of the Church. Checks are to be made payable to All
following areas of ministry:
Clergy: An honorarium of $250 is to be paid to the offici-
Organist: The fee for the organist is $150 (an additional
$75 per soloist, if soloists are involved). This fee includes