Why Won't My Boyfriend Propose To Me?
My boyfriend and I have been dating off and on for
a few years now and I really want to take the next
step with him but I don't want him to feel like I'm
pressuring him into something he's not ready for. I
know he's the one for me, but I don't think he
knows if I'm the one for him. Why won't he propose
to me and is there something I can do about it?
This is one of the most difficult positions for a woman to be in especially if you're with a great
guy because you're up against what I call the relationship clock. What this means is that at
some point in the relationship you both need to be on the same page as to where things are
going and what you both want. If this doesn't happen within a certain period of time, then you've
effectively wasted that portion of your life in a relationship that went nowhere.
Now I know that in the majority of cases, women know much earlier than men, where the
relationship is headed and what they want the outcome to be. So if you know what you want
from your man, but he's not giving it to you right now, take a deep breath and step back
because I'm going to tell you something that will help you in the long run.
Understanding Why He Won't Propose and How It Can Help You Get What You Want
This may sound a little backwards, but understanding the reasons why he won't propose can
actually help you get him to make that next step comfortably. Once you recognize and can
identify exactly what's holding him back, then you can use this information to help him change
Reasons Why He Won't Propose
In reality there are only a handful of reasons why men refuse to propose. One of these reasons
is that he's still unsure if he's found the right woman to marry. If your boyfriend has expressed
his hesitation in regards to your long term future together then it's clear that he's only interested
in a casual long term relationship instead of a serious one.
Why Won't My Boyfriend Propose To Me?
If you find yourself in this situation, the best thing for you is to follow your gut. Don't go above
and beyond for him especially if he's not willing to do the same for you otherwise you will end up
in an unbalanced relationship.
Furthermore to this point, if you're counting on a ring from a man who is just dating you casually
and won't commit, I recommend that you ratchet back your expectations of him or else you'll
end up with a broken heart and a naked finger. So treat him more like a friend than a boyfriend.
This lets him know that you're not just going to sit around and wait for him to make up his mind
about what he wants from you or your relationship.
Another reason why men refuse to take their relationships to the next level and propose is that
they simply don't want to give in to what their girlfriend's want. This is quite common, especially
in long term dating relationships. Many times, the woman makes it quite clear about her
intentions on settling down, getting married and raising a family but the man just sluffs it off like
it's no big deal and says he's not sure what he really wants right now.
What happens is that eventually in this situation the relationship between the man and woman
becomes an emotional tug of war with each side trying to pull the other one over. If you find
yourself in this situation then you need to take control of things right now or else nothing in your
relationship with him will ever change.
Stop talking about your future together with him and just start living your life. Give yourself some
space so that he clearly sees that you're not just going to wait around for him to make up his
mind on what he wants from you and your relationship. More often than not, a little time and
space gives a man a little perspective about what his life will be without you and more
importantly with you.
The Bottom Line
Most women know early on in the relationship where they want things to go when it comes to
marriage and commitment. Unfortunately, most men are slow to catch on and end up dragging
their heels because they don't think that they are ready to take the next step.
Learn how you can get your man to commit to you and your future together with the Girl Gets
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